Those of you who know me – know that I describe myself as a STOIC!

But I am not always stoic. Sometimes I am only partially stoic or even not very stoic at all…

High Intention, Low Attachment

We’ve all experienced the sting of disappointment – that sinking feeling when a deal falls through or a long-cherished goal slips from our grasp. Recently, I found myself caught in this very trap. I had placed very, very high attachment on something in my business that was ultimately out of my control.

My intentions were pure and my effort was unwavering – but my attachment was suffocating. When things didn’t unfold as I had hoped, that single point of negativity clouded my entire perspective. Instead of seeing the vast ocean of opportunities and blessings around me, I fixated on this one perceived failure.

This is where the Rule of HILA comes in: High Intention, Low Attachment.

HILA invites us to pour our energy, focus, and passion into our goals (high intention), while simultaneously releasing our rigid grip on the outcome (low attachment). It teaches us to strive boldly, but without letting our happiness or self-worth hinge on any single result.

In my case, I allowed high intention to morph into high attachment – a rookie mistake that cost me clarity and peace of mind.

The beauty of HILA is that it frees us to engage fully in life, to give our best, and to welcome outcomes as they unfold. It reminds us that our value isn’t tied to a single win or loss, but rather to the spirit with which we show up every day.

When we practice high intention and low attachment, we don’t stop caring – we simply stop clinging. And that subtle shift can transform the way we experience setbacks and successes alike.